“Rather than resisting endings and limits, let us instead revel in and cleave to all of our own inevitable fantastic failures.” - Jack Halberstam 2011, 187
At this time last year, I participated in the 3MT competition — or, rather, I attempted to. Even though I had practiced my speech to the point of mastery, when it came time to deliver in front of the jury, I completely blanked out. I live with generalized anxiety and heightened stress can do this to my brain. Like people whose chronic pain flares up during challenging times, something happens in my brain, a kind of fog or glitch, that hinders any attempt at clear cognition. Even though I have learned to live with this condition — I have participated in and facilitated countless conferences, I teach, and I lead workshops — moments like these still occasionally happen, a reminder of my difference and vulnerability.
But I am not here to tell you how I learned from this experience, grew as a person, and how failure is a necessary passage towards success — How many times have we heard this story before?
Instead, I want to consider my experience with mental illness to explore the possibilities of “staying with”[1] failure as something we need to embrace rather than try to overcome.
Failure: A Particular Experience of the World
This reflection is inspired by the fact that for many of us, failure is not a temporary state we can just move past, but it makes up our very experience of the world. For example, for those of us who live with a psychological impairment, and who have been historically disadvantaged by the schooling system, failure shapes our everyday lives. Failure is the position we occupy, the point of view from which we learn to see ourselves as different from the norm. For a long time, people with psychological impairments were treated as objects of knowledge rather than those who produce it. Women, Black and Indigenous peoples, were incarcerated, scrutinized, and abused based on madness, producing very narrow understandings of mental illnesses which were then taught in universities. These notions have been further implemented through educational standards which reinforce differences and celebrate neurotypicality. For these reasons, the very fact of living with a psychological impairment is still perceived and experienced as the failure to produce knowledge.
But what if instead of trying to fit within the norm, and overcome our brain’s differences, we embraced the position of failure as a possibility to reshape our understanding of the world and of ourselves?